If the prevailing assumption is that a woman was married,2I.e., we do not know for certain that she has been married, but she and her husband have lived together as man and wife. See Sefer HaKovetz, which notes that the Rambam's wording deviates from his source (Ketubot 2:5), which mentions that witnesses say that the woman was married. and she comes and says, "My husband divorced me," her word is not accepted [as a basis] for her to be allowed to be remarried.3Instead, she is considered to be married to her husband until she brings proof to the contrary. If she remarries, she is forced to leave her second husband (Maggid Mishneh; Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 152:7). There is a difference of opinion among the authorities regarding whether her second husband is required to give her a formal divorce. (See Beit Shmuel 152:12.) She has, however, disqualified herself [from marrying into] the priesthood forever.4I.e., should her present husband die, she would not be allowed to marry a priest. (See Halachah 3.) If her husband dies [childless], we suspect that there might have been truth to her words, and she performs the rite of chalitzah, rather than the rite of yibbum.5I.e., we do not accept her statements entirely, and therefore require her to undergo chalitzah. Nevertheless, because there is a possibility that her statements are true, we do not allow her to undergo yibbum, for if she had in fact been divorced, relations with her late husband's brother would be forbidden.
If the signatures of the witnesses are not verified, she is not considered to be divorced with regard to the right to marry others. She has, however, disqualified herself [from marrying into] the priesthood, as stated.9See Halachah 1. For she has disqualified herself by virtue of her own statements and caused herself to be considered as a forbidden object.10I.e., although we do not accept her statements, we require her to abide by all the stringencies they imply.
In Hilchot Ishut (loc. cit.), the Ra'avad states that the woman's word should be accepted only insofar as to require her to receive a get if she remarries. She is not given license to remarry, nor may she collect the money due her by virtue of her ketubah from her first husband unless she proves that she has been divorced. The Ramah (Even HaEzer 17:2) quotes both views. He states, however, that in the present age, since brazen behavior is more common, the presumption upon which the Rambam's ruling rests is no longer a viable support.
We fear that he is seeking to create difficulties for her,13I.e., that she will remarry and then he will prove that her second marriage is adulterous, in which case she will be bound by all the stringencies stated in Chapter 10, Halachot 4 and 7. or that he divorced her with a get that was void, and she is not aware of the fact, or perhaps she will brazenly [state that she has been divorced, although that is not the case,] because he accepts her word, or because she is not aware of the seriousness of the prohibition. Therefore, we tell the husband: "If it is true [that you divorced her,] you are both here, divorce her again in our presence."
If, however, the witnesses say: "She was divorced several days ago," there is the possibility that the get was lost. [Therefore, different laws apply.] Since she claims that she was definitely divorced, and two witnesses support her claim, although there are two witnesses who deny it, if she marries one of the witnesses, she is not compelled to leave [her second husband]. [The rationale is] that she and her husband, [the witness,] certainly know whether she is permitted [or not], and we assume that they would not create difficulties for themselves.15This assumption has sufficient legal power to counterbalance the prevailing assumption that the woman is still married. (See Beit Shmuel 152:5.)
Accordingly, [different rules apply] if she marries another person. Since he cannot be certain concerning the matter - and similarly, if she herself is uncertain about the matter, even if she marries one of her witnesses - she should be compelled to leave [her second husband]. The legitimacy of a child born to them is a matter of question.
If the husband says: "I gave him [the get] for safekeeping," and the agent says, "He gave it to me for the sake of divorce," the agent's word is accepted.20The Rambam's ruling applies even when the husband, the wife and the agent are all in the same city. Even though one might think that in such an instance, if the husband's intent was to divorce his wife, he would have given the get to her directly and not to an agent, the agent's word is accepted.
There is another opinion in Gittin 64a, which maintains that in the same city, the agent's word is not accepted, and several Rishonim follow this view. Both opinions are mentioned by the Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 141:55), but the Rambam's opinion appears to be favored. The Ramah states that the agent's word is accepted only while he is in possession of the get. A similar rule applies if the woman is in possession of the get21When quoting this law, the Shulchan Aruch (loc. cit.) appears to favor an opinion that accepts the woman's corroboration of the agent's statement, even when she is not in possession of the get. and she says, "This agent gave it to me," the agent corroborates her statements and says that it was given to him by the husband for the purpose of divorce. The agent's word is accepted,22I.e., even though the agent is no longer in possession of the get, his word is accepted. Since the woman has the potential to return it to him, it is considered as if it is still in his possession (Beit Shmuel 141:83). even if the husband protests that he gave it to him for safekeeping, and the woman is considered to be divorced.
Even if the woman herself says, "In my presence, [my husband] gave the get to the agent for the purpose of divorce, and he divorced me," [the ruling remains unchanged]. Since her husband and the agent support her, it is possible that she will speak brazenly27See Halachot 4 and 6. and in fact, she was not divorced.
Moreover, as mentioned in those notes, the Ramah maintains that if the get is no longer in possession of the agent, his word is not accepted. Although she did not know [the purpose for which the get was given to the original agent], the witnesses knew.
If, however, the signatures [of the witnesses] cannot be verified, the divorce is not effective.
[The rationale is that] we assume that a woman will not bring difficulties upon herself, causing herself to be forbidden to both her first and her second husbands, causing herself to lose the right to collect the money due her by virtue of her ketubah from both husbands and causing her children to be deemed illegitimate when the matter is likely to become openly revealed, and when she will not be able to deny the matter or offer any argument in her defense. For if her husband is alive, he will ultimately return, or [at least,] it will become known that he is alive.
Similarly, if one witness comes and testifies that the woman's husband died, she is granted permission to marry by virtue of his testimony, because [the truth of] the matter will ultimately be revealed.31As reflected by the Rambam's statements at the conclusion of Chapter 13, it appears that according to Scriptural law, the testimony of one witness is accepted in instances of this nature. Similarly, the testimony of a servant, a woman, a maid-servant or a witness testifying on the basis of statements he heard from others is accepted regarding a person's death.32The testimony of such individuals is never accepted according to Scriptural law. The acceptance of such testimony in this instance is a leniency adopted by the Sages so that Jewish women will be able to remarry. (See the conclusion of Chapter 13.)
This halachah begins the discussion of the subject of agunot, women whose husbands are missing and presumed to have died. In previous generations, this was a recurrent difficulty, for business journeys were replete with danger, and moreover, pogroms and persecution were constant threats. Often, men disappeared and were presumed to have died or to have been killed, and yet there was no conclusive proof to that effect. Indeed, a significant amount of the Rabbinic literature of previous generations was devoted to questions of this nature.
In the present age, with the communications revolution and the advent of more highly developed means of identification, these problems have been minimized. But they still arise. After each of Israel's wars, lengthy investigations were necessary before permission to remarry was granted to the wives of the casualties. And when, heaven forbid, there are Jews killed in plane crashes and the like, Rabbis must make careful inquiries based on the principles reflected in the halachot that follow. On the basis of such testimony, the man's wife is granted permission to remarry or perform the rite of yibbum.
The Kessef Mishneh states that the phrase "although he is still alive" is meant to exclude an instance in which a woman's husband died and she remarried. The five women who share these close family ties with her first husband are not disqualified from giving testimony with regard to the death of her second husband. The implication is that these women's hatred has a specific objective: to cause the woman to be divorced from her husband. Once she is no longer married to him, they no longer harbor such feelings.
The Beit Shmuel 17:13 and Rabbi Akiva Eiger question this ruling on the basis of the Rambam's wording in Chapter 7, Halachah 3, which states: "These are the women who we presume hate each other . . . another woman married to the same man - this applies even if this woman has since remarried." Nevertheless, this halachah can be interpreted to mean that although the other woman has remarried, she wants the woman who was married to her first husband also to be forbidden to him.They are the woman's mother-in-law, the daughter of her mother-in-law,35Who we assume would identify with her mother. Moreover, the daughter of the mother-in-law may have a personal grudge, because the other woman will enjoy the inheritance of her parents' estate.[her husband's] other wife, her yevamah,36I.e., the woman married to her husband's brother, whom her husband would have to marry if his brother died without children. Since it is possible that they will share the same husband, there may be enmity between them. her husband's daughter [from another marriage].37I.e., she is jealous of the woman who took her mother's place.
Because of the bad feelings that characterize the relationship between these pairs, testimony is also disqualified in the reverse of the above situations. For example, if the husband of the daughter of a woman's husband is missing, the woman may not testify about the matter, although she has no natural reason to hate the other woman.
[Indeed, with regard to such testimony,] a gentile's statements delivered in the course of conversation are accepted and can serve as the basis for a woman to remarry, as will be explained.38See Chapter 13, Halachah 11, which explains that when the gentile makes statements casually, relating events that took place, his word is accepted. If the gentile makes his statements with the intent that they serve as testimony, his word is not accepted.
A person who is disqualified [from serving as a witness] by Rabbinic law,41E.g., a person who takes interest forbidden by Rabbinic law, or a gambler (Hilchot Edut 10:3). (See also Hilchot Edut 11:1-5, which mentions other base individuals whose testimony was disqualified.) by contrast, may give testimony regarding [the death of] a woman's [husband].42Although our Sages disqualified the testimony of such individuals in other instances, they relaxed this restriction in this regard, so that the woman would be granted the opportunity to remarry.
[The rationale is that] the testimony of one witness is accepted with regard to [the death of] a woman's [husband] in the same way as is the testimony of two witnesses with regard to other matters. [This testimony is being challenged by the testimony of one witness,] and the words of one witness are not considered when there is [testimony from] two [witnesses].44Or, as in the case at hand, the testimony of one witness that is considered to be equivalent to that of two.
If, however, she marries the witness who testified on her behalf, and she herself says, "I am certain that he died,"48This is interpreted by most commentaries to mean: "I know that he died." Rashi (Ketubot 22b) states that it means: "I know that if he were alive, he would have returned by now," but this interpretation is not accepted by the later authorities. she need not leave her second husband.49The rationale for this decision is stated above in Halachah 7. At the outset, however, she should not remarry, not even to this witness (Beit Shmuel 17:113). There are, moreover, significant halachic authorities who rule that she must leave her second husband. Their opinion is also mentioned in the Shulchan Aruch (loc. cit.), but the Rambam's opinion appears to be favored. If two witnesses come and say that her first husband did not die, [a more stringent ruling is delivered]. Even though she married, she must leave her second husband.
If, however, one acceptable witness says that her husband died, and many51I.e., the number is not significant. The same law applies whether two or 200 come. women or men who were disqualified from serving as witnesses by Rabbinic law testify that her husband did not die, the situation is considered to be equally balanced.52Thus, she may not marry at all (and if she marries, may not remain married to her second husband unless she marries the witness, as the Rambam continues in Halachah 19). The Maggid Mishneh and the Ramah (Even HaEzer 17:37) emphasize that this applies only when the women or the witnesses who are usually disqualified come before the woman is granted permission to marry. If, however, she is granted permission to marry on the basis of the testimony of an acceptable witness, the testimony of these individuals does not cause that license to be rescinded. Thus, if she marries one of the witnesses53The wording used by the Rambam is slightly confusing, for we are speaking about an instance when only one acceptable witness testifies on her behalf. (See Beit Shmuel 17:118.) who testified on her behalf, and she herself says, "I am certain that he died," she need not leave her second husband.
If she marries one of the witnesses who testified on her behalf, and she herself says, "I am certain that he died," she need not leave her second husband.
Even if the woman [who said that her husband died] married first, [the other wife is still forbidden to marry]. We do not say that if her husband had not actually died, she would not cause herself to be forbidden to him. [Instead, we suspect that] perhaps her hatred for the other wife is so great that she desires for them both to become forbidden to him.58I.e., she is marrying with the intent that the other wife will follow suit and also marry. Then her first husband will return, and they will both become forbidden to him. In describing this sequence, Yevamot 120a recalls Samson's prayer (Judges 16:30 : "May I die together with the Philistines" - i.e., she will harm herself in order to harm her rival.
If one says, "My husband died," and her husband's other wife denies this, saying that he did not die, [the wife who testifies that he has died] may remarry. Just as the other wife's testimony does not cause her to be permitted, it does not cause her to be forbidden.
If one says, "[My husband] died," and the other says, "He was killed," they both are granted permission to remarry, for they both are testifying that he is no longer alive.59The fact that their testimonies contradict each other is not significant.
הלכות גירושין פרק יב
א) האישה שבאה ואמרה, אשת איש הייתי, וגרושה אני -- נאמנת, שהפה שאסר הוא הפה שהתיר. הוחזקה אשת איש, ובאה ואמרה, גירשני בעלי -- אינה נאמנת להתיר עצמה; אבל פסלה עצמה לכהונה, לעולם. ואם מת בעלה, חוששין לדבריה; וחולצת, ולא מתייבמת.
ב) היו לה שני עדים שהיא גרושה, אף על פי שאין שם גט -- הרי זו תינשא לכתחילה. הוציאה גט מתחת ידה ואמרה, גירשני בעלי בזה -- הרי זו נאמנת; ותינשא בו, אף על פי שאינו מקויים, כמו שביארנו. [ג] בא הבעל ועירער -- אם אמר, לא נתתיו לה אלא נפל ממני ומצאה אותו, אינו נאמן: שהרי הודה שכתבו לה, והרי הוא יוצא מתחת ידה.
ג) אבל אם אמר הבעל, על תנאי היה, פיקדון היה, מעולם לא כתבתיו ומזוייף הוא -- יתקיים בחותמיו, או בעדי מסירה, כמו שביארנו. ואם לא נתקיים, אינה מגורשת להיותה מותרת לאחרים; אבל נפסלה מן הכהונה, כמו שביארנו, שהרי פסלה עצמה בהודאת פיה, ועשתה עצמה כחתיכה של איסור.
ד) באה היא ובעלה, היא אומרת, גירשתני ואבד גיטי, והוא אומר, לא גירשתיך -- אף על פי שהוחזקה אשתו, הרי זו נאמנת: חזקה, שאין אישה מעיזה פניה בפני בעלה.
ה) אמר הבעל, גירשתי את אשתי -- אינו נאמן, וחוששין לדבריו ותהיה ספק מגורשת; ואפילו הודת לו שגירשה, אינו נאמן -- שמא יתכוון לקלקל אותה, או בגט בטיל גירשה והיא אינה יודעת כובד האיסור שלה. לפיכך אומרין לו, אם אמת הדבר, הרי אתם קיימים, גרשה עתה בפנינו.
ו) שניים אומרין נתגרשה, ושניים מכחישין אותן ואומרין לא נתגרשה -- אפילו הבעל עומד והיא אומרת לו, גירשתני -- הרי זו בחזקת אשת איש גמורה כשהייתה: מפני העדים שסומכין אותה, אפשר שתעיז פניה. לפיכך אם נישאת, תצא והוולד ממזר.
ז) במה דברים אמורים, בשאמרו עכשיו נתגרשה, שהרי אומרין לה, אם אמת הדבר הוציאי גיטיך; אבל אם אמרו העדים מכמה ימים נתגרשה, יש לומר אבד הגט. והואיל והיא אומרת, גרושה אני בודאי, ושני עדים מעידין לה -- אף על פי שהרי מכחישין אותן, אם נישאת לאחד מעדיה -- לא תצא: שהרי היא ובעלה יודעין בודאי שהיא מותרת, וחזקה היא שאין מקלקלין עצמן. אבל אם נישאת לאחר, הואיל והדבר אצלו ספק, וכן אם אמרה היא, איני יודעת, אפילו נישאת לאחד מעדיה -- הרי זו תצא, והוולד ספק ממזר.
ח) אמרו שניים ראינוה שנתגרשה, ושניים אומרין לא ראינוה -- אם היו כולן שרויין בחצר אחת, הרי זו לא תינשא; ואם נישאת, לא תצא, והוולד כשר -- שבני אדם עשויין לגרש בצנעה.
ט) האישה שלא הוחזקה אשת איש, ובא עד אחד ואמר, אשת איש הייתה ונתגרשה, ובא עד אחד ואמר, לא נתגרשה -- הרי שניהן מעידין שהיא אשת איש, ואחד מעיד שהיא גרושה, ואין דבריו של אחד מועיל, במקום שניים: ולפיכך לא תינשא; ואם נישאת, תצא.
י) אישה ושני אנשים שבאו ממדינה אחרת, זה אומר, זו אשתי וזה עבדי, וזה אומר, זו אשתי וזה עבדי, והאישה אומרת, שניהם עבדיי -- הרי היא מותרת לכול: ואף על פי ששניהן החזיקוה אשת איש -- הואיל וכל אחד מהן לעצמו העיד, אינן נאמנין.
יא) שליח קבלה שהוציא גט מתחת ידו, והבעל אומר, מזוייף הוא -- יתקיים בחותמיו או בעדי מסירה, כמו שביארנו; אמר הבעל, פיקדון נתתיו לו, והשליח אומר, לגירושין נתנו לי -- השליח נאמן. וכן אם היה הגט יוצא מתחת ידי האישה, והיא אומרת, שליח זה נתנו לי, והשליח אומר, כן היה ולגירושין נתנו לי, והבעל אומר, לא נתתיו אלא לפיקדון -- השליח נאמן, והרי זו מגורשת.
יב) אבד הגט -- אף על פי שהבעל אומר, לגירושין נתתי הגט לשליח, והשליח אומר, נתתיו לה -- הרי זו ספק מגורשת: שהרי הוחזקה אשת איש, ואין כאן אלא עד אחד ובעל. ואפילו אמרה האישה, בפניי נתנו לו לגירושין, ונתנו השליח לי, הואיל והבעל והשליח מעידין אותה, אפשר שתעיז פניה -- ושמא לא נתגרשה.
יג) שליח קבלה שקיבל גט לאישה, ושילחו לה ביד שני עדים, והגיע הגט לידה ונטלתו, והרי הגט יוצא מתחת ידה, והיא אינה יודעת אם בעלה שילחו לה, או שליח קבלה שלה, או שלוחו של בעלה -- הרי זו מגורשת, כמו שביארנו. [יד] בא הבעל ועירער שלא כתבו, או שהוא גט בטיל -- יתקיים בחותמיו, שהרי עדים מעידים שהגט שנתנו לה יצא מתחת ידי שלוחה שידו כידה, ואף על פי שהיא אינה יודעת, הרי העדים ידעו; ואם לא נתקיים, אינה מגורשת.
יד) [טו] מי שהוחזקה אשת איש, והלכה היא ובעלה, ושלום בינו לבינה ושלום בעולם, ובאה ואמרה, מת בעלי -- נאמנת, ותינשא או תתייבם: חזקה שאינה מקלקלת עצמה, ותאסור עצמה על זה ועל זה, ותפסיד כתובתה מזה ומזה, ותוציא בניה ממזרים -- בדבר העשוי להיגלות לכול; ואי אפשר להכחיש, ולא לטעון טענה, שאם הוא חי, סופו לבוא או ייוודע שהוא חי.
טו) וכן אם בא עד אחד, והעיד לה שמת בעלה, תינשא על פיו, שהדבר עשוי להיגלות; אפילו עבד, או אישה, או שפחה, ועד מפי עד מפי עבד מפי שפחה מפי קרובים -- נאמנין לומר מת פלוני, ותינשא אשתו או תתייבם על פיהם.
טז) והכול נאמנים להעיד לה, עדות זו -- חוץ מחמש נשים שחזקתן שונאות זו את זו, שאין מעידות זו לזו במיתת בעלה, שמא יתכוונו לאוסרה על בעלה, ועדיין הוא קיים; ואלו הן -- חמותה, ובת חמותה, וצרתה, ויבמתה, ובת בעלה.
יז) אפילו גוי מסיח לפי תומו, נאמן, ומשיאין על פיו, כמו שיתבאר; ועם נתכוון להעיד, אינו נאמן. [יז] וכן הפסול בעבירה מן התורה, אם בא להעיד לאישה שמת בעלה, אינו נאמן; ואם היה מסיח לפי תומו, נאמן -- אין זה פחות מן הגוי. אבל פסול מדבריהם, נאמן לעדות אישה.
יח) בא עד אחד והעיד שמת בעלה, והתירוה להינשא על פיו, ואחר כך בא אחר והכחיש את הראשון ואמר, לא מת -- הרי זו לא תצא מהיתרה, ותינשא: שעד אחד בעדות אישה, כשני עדים בשאר עדייות, ואין דבריו של אחד, במקום שניים.
יט) באו שניהן כאחד, זה אומר, מת, וזה אומר, לא מת, אישה אומרת, מת, ואישה אומרת, לא מת -- הרי זו לא תינשא; ואם נישאת, תצא מפני שהיא ספק. ואם נישאת לעד שהעיד לה, והיא אומרת, בריא לי שמת -- הרי זו לא תצא; באו שניים ואמרו, לא מת, אף על פי שנישאת, תצא.
כ) במה דברים אמורים, בשהיה האחד שנישאת על פיו כמו השניים שבאו והכחישו אותו -- כגון שנישאת על פי איש, ובאו שניים ואמרו לא מת, או שנישאת על פי אישה או על פי עצמה, ובאו שתי נשים או שני פסולין של דבריהם ואמרו לא מת. אבל עד אחד כשר אומר, מת, ונשים רבות או פסולין אומרים, לא מת -- הרי זה כמחצה למחצה; ואם נישאת לאחד מעדיה, והיא אומרת, ודאי מת -- הרי זו לא תצא. [כא] אישה אומרת, מת, או היא שאמרה, מת בעלי, ואחר כך בא עד כשר ואמר, לא מת -- הרי זו לא תינשא;ואם נישאת, תצא.
כא) [כב] אישה אומרת, לא מת, ושתי נשים אומרות, מת -- הרי זו תינשא; וכן אם אמרו עשר נשים, לא מת, ואחת עשרה אומרות, מת -- הרי זו תינשא: שאין אומרים שניים כמאה, אלא בעדים כשרים; אבל בפסולין, הולכין אחר הרוב -- בין להקל, בין להחמיר.
כב) [כג] שני עדים אומרין, מת, ושניים אומרין, לא מת -- הרי זו לא תינשא; ואם נישאת, תצא מפני שהיא ספק. ואם נישאת לאחד מעדיה, והיא אומרת, בריא לי שמת -- הרי זו לא תצא.
כג) [כד] מי שיש לו שתי נשים, ובאה אחת מהן ואמרה, מת בעלי -- הרי זו תינשא על פי עצמה, כמו שביארנו; וצרתה, אסורה -- שאין צרה מעידה לחברתה. ואפילו נישאת זו תחילה, אין אומרין אילו לא מת בעלה לא הייתה אוסרת עצמה עליו -- שמא משנאתה בצרתה, רוצה היא שייאסרו שתיהן עליו.
כד) זאת אומרת, מת בעלי, וצרתה מכחשת אותה ואומרת, לא מת -- הרי זו תינשא: כשם שאינה מעידה לה להתירה, כך לא תעיד לה לאוסרה. זאת אומרת, מת, וצרתה אומרת, נהרג -- הואיל ושתיהן אומרות שאינו קיים, הרי אלו יינשאו.




