From Yevamot 52a it would appear that this practice was instituted as an expression of modesty. Just as with regard to marriage, although it is acceptable to consecrate a woman through sexual relations according to Scriptural law, our Rabbis ordered a ban of ostracism to be placed on a person who does so; so too, with regard to yibbum, they required that the man designate the woman as his wife before entering into marital relations with her. This [act] is called a ma'amar.2The word ma'amar means "statement." The Tosefot Yom Tov explains that the term was chosen because the yavam must make a statement of intent. Rav Kapach offers an alternative interpretation, citing Deuteronomy 26:17,18, which uses the root אמר to mean "designate," or "declare allegiance to."
A ma'amar does not complete the acquisition of a yevamah, as will be explained.3See Chapter 5, Halachot 2-3.
The standard printed text of the Mishneh Torah continues "as does sexual relations." Nevertheless, authoritative manuscripts and early printings of the Mishneh Torah do not contain this addition. Based on that version, Rav Kapach explains that the comparison may be, not to sexual relations with a yevamah, but rather to the effectiveness of the transfer of money in ordinary kiddushin.
When [a yavam] performs a ma'amar with his yevamah without her knowledge, his deed is of no consequence. For a woman can be consecrated only willingly.4See Hilchot Ishut 4:1. When a minor is widowed after being merely consecrated,5If the minor's marriage is consummated, she leaves her father's authority and acts independently. As long as she is merely consecrated, however, she is under her father's authority. See Hilchot Ishut 3:11-12. a ma'amar can be performed only with the consent of her father.
When [a yavam] enters into marital relations with his yevamah without previously performing a ma'amar with her, he acquires her in a binding manner;8The fact that he disobeyed our Sages' wishes does not cause his deed to lose its effectiveness. he does not have to consecrate her after engaging in marital relations with her. He should be given stripes for rebellious conduct9The punishment given for disobeying a Rabbinic ordinance. See Hilchot Ishut 3:21. and should write a ketubah for her.
If he intended to masturbate in a hole in the wall and unintentionally inserted his organ into his yevamah, he does not acquire her [as his wife].16For masturbation is not considered to be sexual relations. If he intended to sodomize an animal and unintentionally inserted his organ into his yevamah, he does acquire her [as his wife].17For sodomy is considered to be a forbidden form of relations.
If he did not divorce her, we compel him to engage in relations with her,19And remain married to her. or to perform chalitzah and also to divorce her, giving her a get.20Since he brought her home as his wife, even if he agrees that they did not engage in relations, he is required to divorce her, because it is likely that they did engage in relations (Maggid Mishneh; Ramah, Even HaEzer 167:6). Nevertheless, since she claims that they did not, and there is plausibility to her claim, he is also required to perform chalitzah.
If he divorced her after thirty days had passed, and she claims that they did not engage in sexual relations, we request that he perform chalitzah with her.21After a couple have lived together for thirty days, we assume that they have engaged in relations, for a man will not restrain himself any longer. Hence, the man cannot be compelled to perform chalitzah (Yevamot, ibid.). Nevertheless, we ask him to perform this rite, for otherwise the woman will not be permitted to remarry. If, however, he admits that he had not entered into relations with her, we compel him to perform chalitzah with her.22He has nothing to lose in this concern, for since he divorced her without entering into relations with her, he is no longer permitted to fulfill the mitzvah of yibbum. Therefore, he should fulfill the mitzvah of chalitzah so that she can remarry.
If she claims that they engaged in sexual relations, and he denies engaging in relations, she is not required to engage in chalitzah, for his word is not accepted [when he desires] to cause her to be forbidden to all other men, once he brings her to his home as his wife.
There is also a difference of opinion among the authorities whether a woman who refuses to engage in yibbum is considered to have "rebelled." As mentioned in the notes on Chapter 1, Halachah 2, the Ashkenazic authorities maintain that the mitzvah of chalitzah takes precedence over the mitzvah of yibbum. Therefore, they maintain that a woman has the right to refuse to engage in yibbum, and she is not judged to have "rebelled" for this reason. We compel her yavam to perform chalitzah with her,32The Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 77:2) differs with the Rambam and maintains that a husband should not be compelled to divorce a woman who "rebels." According to that perspective, a yavam should also not be compelled to perform chalitzah.
According to the Ramah (Even HaEzer 165:1), who favors chalitzah, when a yavam desires to perform yibbum and the yevamah refuses, the yavam cannot be compelled by force to perform chalitzah. He should, however, be convinced to do so. Note the gloss of the Beit Shmuel 165:1, which discusses this ruling in detail.
All authorities agree that if the yavam is one of the individuals considered unfit to marry (see Halachah 14), he should be compelled to perform chalitzah. and she forfeits [the money due her by virtue of her] marriage contract.
When the deceased is survived by many wives, the one that the yavam asks to perform yibbum and refuses is considered to have "rebelled." He should perform chalitzah with her, and she forfeits [the money due her by virtue of her] marriage contract.33This applies even if one of the other women would be willing to marry the yavam; the choice is his and not hers. The other wives who were not asked [to perform yibbum] receive [the money due them by virtue of their] marriage contracts, as other widows do.
Moreover, if one of the brothers was in another country, and the woman says: "I would prefer to wait for him to come and perform yibbum with me. I do not want [to marry] this one," she is not considered to have "rebelled." [Since] the brother who asks [to marry her] is not the eldest, we tell him: "If you desire to perform chalitzah and pay her [the money due her by virtue of her] marriage contract, you may.37Although, according to the Rambam, the mitzvah of yibbum takes priority over the mitzvah of chalitzah, this is the case only when yibbum can be performed immediately. In this instance, this brother is not forced to wait until his other brother returns, for having the obligation to perform yibbum or chalitzah is a detriment to a man, as stated in Halachah 16 (Rav David Arameah). If not, she wants to wait until your brother comes. Since you do not have a prior claim, [she is granted that prerogative].38Generally, the court makes an effort to have the mitzvah of yibbum or chalitzah performed as soon as possible, as reflected in Halachot 8 and 9. This, however, is a measure of consideration for the woman, so that she will not be forced to remain without a husband. In this instance, it is she who desires the delay. Hence, she is given that prerogative (Or Sameach).
Similarly, if the yavam was a leper or he has other blemishes [for which] men [are required to divorce],41He has constant bad breath or a smell coming from his nose, or he works as a copper miner, a tanner, or a collector of dog feces, as stated in Hilchot Ishut 25:11. he must perform chalitzah for her, and she is entitled to receive [the money due her by virtue of] her marriage contract.
If a yevamah suffered blemishes while she was waiting for yibbum, it is the yavam's lack of fortune.42A man is entitled to divorce his wife if he discovers that she possessed physical blemishes that mar her appeal before her marriage, and he is not required to pay her the money due her by virtue of her marriage contract, as stated in Hilchot Ishut 7:8, 25:2. Nevertheless, in this instance this law does not apply, because the connection between the yavam and the yevamah begins directly after her first husband's death. If he does not desire to perform yibbum, he must perform chalitzah and give her [the money due her by virtue of] her marriage contract.
If she takes such a vow after her [first] husband's death, we request46Since the vow was taken specifically to free her from the obligation of yibbum, the yavam is not obligated to respect it. [her yavam] to perform chalitzah for her.47If he agrees and performs chalitzah willingly, he is obligated to pay her the money due by virtue of her marriage contract. If he does not desire to do so, she is considered to have "rebelled."48In which case he is compelled to perform chalitzah with her, but is not required to pay her the money due by virtue of her marriage contract, as stated in Halachah 10. Similarly, even if she took such a vow in her husband's lifetime, if her intent was that he should not perform yibbum with her,49Moreover, even if we are unsure of the woman's intent when taking the vow, we assume that she desired to free herself from the obligation of yibbum. he is not compelled to perform chalitzah, unless she [accepts the status of] one who rebels and forfeits [payment of] her marriage contract.
Moreover, even if she says "I will provide for my sustenance from my own means, and I will remain without a husband for the rest of my life,"52I.e., she is willing to forego the obligation of her husband's estate to her. her words are not heeded. For the yavam will tell her: "As long as you are under obligation to me, no one else will want to marry me."53For as long as there is the possibility that the yavam will marry the yevamah, other women will hesitate to marry him, for no woman would like to share her husband with another woman. Even if he is already married [this argument still holds weight], for it is possible for him [to desire] to marry another wife, or that [his obligation to] the yevamah will cause strife within his marriage.54Hence, the woman is compelled to perform chalitzah.
If neither the yevamah nor the yavam desires to perform chalitzah, the court is under no obligation to see that the mitzvah is performed. Although the Zohar, Volume III, page 180a, explains that chalitzah brings about benefit for the deceased's soul, neither his brother nor his wife has a binding obligation to perform this act on his behalf. If they desire to, they may, but they cannot be compelled to do so. (See the Responsa of the Chatam Sofer, Even HaEzer, Volume II, Responsum 85.)
The Maggid Mishneh notes that this interpretation does not fit the Rambam's wording. In that light, the Or Sameach offers the following interpretation: The yavam is never obligated to write a marriage contract for the yevamah. Why did our Sages require a man to write a marriage contract for his wife? So that there would be a financial responsibility attached to divorce, and hence a husband would not consider it to be a light matter. In this instance, the yavam is held responsible for the additional amount that the husband added to the marriage contract. Hence, there is financial responsibility attached to divorce, and there is no imperative for a further obligation. The laws regarding the yavam's obligation for the additional amount to be paid the woman are the same as those that applied with regard to her husband.57As mentioned in Hilchot Ishut 24:2-3, although her husband is not obligated for the fundamental requirement of the marriage contract, he is obligated for the additional amount that he promised her. This obligation is transferred to the yavam.
If, however, a husband did not write his wife a marriage contract, or she sold him or waived to him the rights to her marriage contract, the yavam is obligated to write a new marriage contract for her as he would be required for another widow.58The yavam is not, however, obligated to write a marriage contract equivalent to the one that the woman's first husband gave her. It is sufficient that he write her a marriage contract for 100 zuz, as explained in Hilchot Ishut 22:14.
If she marries another person,60This applies even if she married without knowing of the existence of the yavam (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 159:2). and they engage in sexual relations, they are both punished by lashes,61If, however, the couple do not engage in relations, they are not punished with lashes. and he must divorce her with a get. [This applies] even if she has borne him several children.62The children are not, however, considered illegitimate. See Hilchot Issurei Bi'ah 15:1-2. She is forbidden to him and to her yavam.63I.e., she is compared to a woman who engages in relations with another man while married. See Hilchot Gerushin 10:7.
She becomes forbidden to both men, even though she claims not to have engaged in sexual relations with her second husband (Kessef Mishneh; Ma'aseh Rokeach; see Hilchot Issurei Bi'ah 19:3). Her yavam should perform chalitzah with her; this causes her to be permitted to marry other men.
If her yavam was a priest who is forbidden to marry a divorcee, she should be divorced by the man who consecrated her, so that the sinner should not benefit, and her yavam should perform chalitzah with her.65I.e., one might think that since the yavam cannot perform yibbum with her, she should be allowed to remain married to her second husband. If so, however, the man's transgression - marrying the yevamah - will have brought him benefit. Hence, he is required to divorce her (Yevamot 92b).
The Ramah (Even HaEzer 159:1) states that if the second husband knew of the existence of the yavam and consecrated the woman anyway, he is forbidden to remain married to her, even if he remarried her after chalitzah. If, by contrast, a man divorced [a yevamah] after being married to her and then remarried her again, the couple are forced to separate. For this resembles the case of a married woman who [thought that her husband had died and] remarried, who is forbidden to both her first and second husbands, as has been explained.67See Hilchot Gerushin 10:5,7).
A yevamah who engages in licentious sexual relations does not become forbidden to her yavam.68The Ramah (Even HaEzer 159:3) states that she does, however, become forbidden to the man with whom she engaged in relations. Even if her yavam performs chalitzah, the two may not marry. If he desires, he may perform chalitzah; if he desires, he may perform yibbum.
If she was consecrated by a priest - who is forbidden to be married to a woman who performed chalitzah - [her yavam] should not perform chalitzah for her.71In his gloss on the Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 164:7), Rabbi Akiva Eiger states that this leniency applies only when the priest consecrated the woman without knowing of her obligation to perform chalitzah. If he knew of her obligation and consecrated her nonetheless, the couple are not permitted to remain married. [This leniency was instituted] since we do not cause a man's wife to be forbidden because of a Rabbinic decree instituted on account of doubt.72The Ramah (Even HaEzer 164:7) states that similar laws apply when a yevamah was consecrated by an Israelite, and her yavam is abroad and cannot perform chalitzah for her.
If the priest divorces [the woman] or dies, she should perform chalitzah.73I.e., the leniency is granted to the priest, because it is necessary and not to other men. Afterwards, she is permitted, a priori, to marry other men.
הלכות ייבום וחליצה פרק ב
א) מדברי סופרים, שלא יבוא היבם על יבמתו, עד שיקדש אותה בפני שני עדים בפרוטה, או בשווה פרוטה -- וזה הוא הנקרא מאמר. ואין המאמר קונה ביבמה קניין גמור, כמו שיתבאר; והעושה מאמר ביבמתו שלא מדעתה, לא עשה כלום -- שאין האישה מתקדשת, אלא לרצונה. וקטנה מן האירוסין, אין עושין בה מאמר אלא מדעת אביה.
ב) וכשם שהוא מקדש את יבמתו, כך הוא מברך ברכת נישואין בעשרה; וכותב כתובה, כדין כל נושא אישה. ואם בא על יבמתו, ולא עשה בה מאמר -- קנה קניין גמור, ואינו צריך לחזור ולקדש אחר הבעילה; ומכין אותו מכת מרדות, וכותב לה כתובה.
ג) הבא על יבמתו, בין בשוגג בין במזיד, בין באונס בין ברצון, בין שהיה הוא מזיד והיא שוגגת או אנוסה, בין שהייתה היא מזידה והוא שוגג או אנוס, בין שהייתה ישנה בין שהייתה ערה, בין שבא עליה כדרכה בין שלא כדרכה, אחד המערה ואחד הגומר -- קנה.
ד) במה דברים אמורים, שנתכוון לבעול; אבל אם נפל ונתקע בה, או שבעלה שיכור שאינו מכיר כלום, או ישן -- לא קנה. נתכוון להטיח בכותל, והטיח ביבמתו -- לא קנה; להטיח בבהמה, והטיח ביבמתו -- קנה, שהרי נתכוון לשם בעילה מכל מקום.
ה) יבמה שנתייבמה, ואמרה בתוך שלושים יום, לא נבעלתי -- ואף על פי שהוא אומר, בעלתי -- כופין אותו שיחלוץ לה, הואיל וקדם וגירשה בגט; ואם עדיין לא גירש, כופין אותו שיבעול, או יחלוץ ויוציא בגט.
ו) גירשה לאחר שלושים יום, והיא אומרת, לא נבעלתי -- מבקשים ממנו שיחלוץ לה; ואם היה מודה שלא בעל, כופין אותו לחלוץ. היא אומרת, נבעלתי, והוא אומר, לא בעלתי -- אינה צריכה חליצה: שאין זה נאמן לאוסרה על כל אדם, אחר שכנסה.
ז) [ו] מי שמת והניח אחים רבים, מצוה על הגדול לייבם או לחלוץ, שנאמר "והיה הבכור אשר תלד" (דברים כה,ו), מפי השמועה למדו, שאינו מדבר אלא בבכור של אחים -- כלומר גדול האחים יקום על שם אחיו המת: וזה שנאמר "אשר תלד" -- משמעו אשר ילדה האם, עם משמע אשר תלד היבמה.
ח) [ז] לא רצה הגדול לייבם, מחזרין על כל האחים; לא רצו, חוזרין אצל הגדול ואומרין לו, עליך מצוה, או חלוץ או יבם. ואין כופין את היבם לייבם, אבל כופין אותו לחלוץ.
ט) [ח] אמר הגדול -- המתינו עד שיגדיל הקטן, או עד שיבוא ההולך, או עד שיבריא החירש, ונמלכין בו, ואם לא ירצה, אני אייבם או אחלוץ -- אין שומעין לו, אלא אומרין לו, עליך מצוה, או יבם או חלוץ.
י) [ט] וכן אם היה הגדול במדינה אחרת, אין אחיו הקטן יכול לומר, על אחי הגדול היא המצוה, המתינו לו עד שיבוא -- אלא אומרין לזה שהוא כאן, או יבם או חלוץ.
יא) [י] יבמה הראויה לייבום שלא רצת להתייבם -- דינה כדין מורדת על בעלה, וכופין את יבמה לחלוץ לה; ותצא בלא כתובה. הניח אחיו נשים רבות -- כל מי שתבע היבם מהן לייבום ולא רצת, היא המורדת, וחולץ לה, ותצא בלא כתובה. ושאר צרותיה שלא נתבעו, נוטלות כתובתן כשאר האלמנות.
יב) [יא] היו היבמין רבים, ותבע אותה הגדול לייבום, והיא אינה רוצה בו, ורוצה באחיו -- אין שומעין לה, שמצוה בגדול. [יב] אמר הגדול, איני רוצה לא לחלוץ ולא לייבם, הרי אחיי לפנייך, ותבע אותה אחד מן האחין לייבום, והיא אינה רוצה בו, ורצת באח אחר, והוא רוצה בה -- אין זו מורדת: מאחר שנסתלק הגדול שמצוה בו, הרי כולן ראויין, והואיל והיא רוצה באחד מהן, והוא רוצה בה -- הרי זו לא מרדה.
יג) ולא עוד, אלא אם היה אחד מהן במדינה אחרת, ואמרה, הריני ממתנת עד שיבוא וייבם אותי, אבל זה איני רוצה בו -- אין זו מורדת. ואומרין לזה שאינו הגדול התובע אותה, אם תרצה לחלוץ לה וליתן לה כתובתה, חלוץ; ואם לאו, הרי רצת שתשב עד שיבוא אחיך -- הואיל ואין לך דין קדימה עליו.
יד) [יג] בא זה שתלת בו, ולא רצה בה, חוזרין אצל זה שתבע אותה לייבום, והיא אינה רוצה בו. ואומרין לה, אין כאן מי שרוצה לייבם אלא זה, ומצות ייבום קודמת -- או תתייבם לו, או תצא בלא כתובה כדין כל מורדת.
טו) [יד] כל יבמה שאמרנו שדינה שתחלוץ ולא תתייבם -- הרי זו נוטלת כתובתה, אם יש לה כתובה, כשאר כל האלמנות. וכן אם היה יבמה מוכה שחין, או שיש בו שאר מומי אנשים -- חולץ לה, ונוטלת כתובתה. נולדו בה מומין, כשהיא שומרת יבם -- נסתחפה שדהו: אם לא רצה לייבם, יחלוץ וייתן כתובה.
טז) [טו] יבמה שנדרה הניה מיבמה בחיי בעלה, או שנדרה הניה מכל היהודיים -- כופין אותו שיחלוץ לה, ותיטול כתובתה. ואם נדרה לאחר מיתת בעלה -- מבקשין ממנו שיחלוץ לה; ואם לא רצה, הרי זו מורדת. וכן אם נתכוונה בנדרה אפילו בחיי בעלה, כדי שלא ייבם אותה -- אין כופין אותו לחלוץ, אלא אם כן מרדה; ותצא בלא כתובה.
יז) [טז] יבמה שתבעה היבם לחליצה, והיא אומרת, איני חולצת ולא נוטלת כתובה, אלא אשב בבית בעלי כשאר כל האלמנות -- אין שומעין לה: שהרי הקנו אותה לזה מן השמיים; ורצה מייבם, רצה חולץ ונותן כתובתה. ולא עוד, אלא אפילו אמרה, אני ניזונת משלי, ואשב עגונה כל ימיי -- אין שומעין לה: שהרי היבם אומר לה, כל זמן שאת זקוקה בי, אין נותנין לי אישה; ואפילו היה נשוי, אפשר שיישא אישה אחרת, או תהיה לו מריבה בתוך ביתו, מפני היבמה.
יח) [יז] יבמה שלא היה לה על בעלה כתובה, מפני שהייתה אסורה עליו, והרי היא מותרת לייבם, כמו שיתבאר -- אם רצה היבם לייבם, מייבם; ואין לה עליו כתובה, כדרך שלא היה לה על בעלה. ודינה עם יבמה בתוספת, כמו שהיה עם בעלה; אבל אם לא כתב לה בעלה כתובה, או שמכרה לו כתובתה, או מחלה אותה -- צריך היבם לכתוב לה כתובה, כשאר האלמנות.
יט) [יח] היבמה, קודם שיבוא עליה יבמה, או קודם שיחלוץ לה -- הרי היא אסורה להינשא לזר, שנאמר "לא תהיה אשת המת החוצה לאיש זר" (דברים כה,ה). ואם נישאת לאחר ובעלה, לוקה הוא והיא, ומוציאה בגט, ואפילו היו לה כמה בנים; ונאסרה עליו, ועל יבמה. ויבמה חולץ לה, ואחר כך תהיה מותרת לאחרים.
כ) [יט] נתקדשה לאחר, לא נאסרה על יבמה, אלא נותן לה הזר שקידשה גט, ויבמה מייבם או חולץ. ואם היה יבמה כוהן, שאינו יכול לישא גרושה, תצא מן הזר בגט, כדי שלא יהיה החוטא נשכר; ויחלוץ לה יבמה.
כא) [כ] חזר הזר שגירשה מן האירוסין, ונשאה אחר שחלץ לה יבמה -- אין מוציאין אותה מידו. אבל אם גירשה מן הנישואין, וחזר ונשאה אחר שחלצה -- מוציאין אותה מידו: מפני שהיא דומה לאשת איש שנישאת, ובא בעלה, שהיא אסורה על זה ועל זה, כמו שביארנו. והיבמה שזינת והיא זקוקה, לא נאסרה על יבמה, אלא רצה חולץ, רצה מייבם.
כב) [כא] כל יבמה שהיא ספק מדבריהם, אם יש עליה זיקת יבם או אין עליה זיקת יבם, כגון יבמה שילדה ולד שלא כלו לו חודשיו ומת בתוך שלושים יום, שדינה שתחלוץ מספק מדבריהם, כמו שביארנו -- אם הלכה ונתקדשה לאחר קודם חליצה, חולץ לה יבמה ותשב עם בעלה; ואם נתקדשה לכוהן שהוא אסור בחלוצה, אינו חולץ לה, שאין אוסרין על זה אשתו, מספק מדבריהם. גירשה הכוהן, או מת -- הרי זו חולצת, ואחר כך תינשא לאחרים לכתחילה.




